A friend's father got it right when he said, "The good life is when you
get up in the morning and can't wait to start all over again."
Is that you? Or does the idea of the good life sound like an unreachable
paradise? If you aren't the kind of person who jumps out of bed every
morning excited about the day ahead, I know you desperately long to find
a goal that will spark excitement and energy; you yearn to find the
place where you can make your mark. Albert Schweitzer found his place,
so did Golda Meir, and so did the kid next door who practiced guitar day
and night.
They knew how to live. They believed in what they were doing with all
their hearts. They knew their work was important. When you get near
people who are pursuing their heart's desire, you can see the intensity
on their faces.
Life is just too short to live without that kind of focus.
In the early 1980s, two Harvard psychologists completed a study of
people who called themselves happy. And what did happy people have in
common? Money? Success? Health? Love?
None of these things.
They had only two things in common: They knew exactly what they wanted
and they felt they were moving toward getting it. That's what
makes life feel good: when it has direction, when you are heading
straight for what you love.
And I mean love.
I don't mean what you're skilled at. I don't really care what your
skills are. When I was a single working mother with two babies, you know
what my skills were? I could clean a house like a demon; catch a moving
bus with my arms full of laundry, groceries, and kids; and squeeze a
dollar until the picture of George Washington screamed for mercy.
I do not want the career that uses those skills, thank you.
I don't believe you live the good life by doing what you can do; you
live it by doing what you want to do. I don't even think your greatest
talents necessarily show up in your skills. All of us are good at things
we're not madly in love with. And all of us have talents we've never
used.
Relying on your skills to guide you is simply unacceptable. That's
why I don't give personality tests or skills assessments to find out
what you should be doing.
I know what you should be doing.
You should be doing what you love.
What you love is what you are gifted at. Only love will give you the
drive to stick to something until you develop your gift. That's
the way really big things get accomplished in this world - by people no
different than you and I who know what they want and put everything
they've got behind it.
If you don't know what you want, you can't get out of the starting gate
- and that's discouraging. But you're not alone. Recent figures
show that as many as 98 percent of Americans are unhappy with their
jobs. And it isn't only financial considerations that keep them where
they are; they simply don't know what to do instead. What you may have
thought was your private little nightmare turns out to be
heartbreakingly common.
Well, I have a surprise for you.
You do know what you want. Everybody does. That's why you feel so
restless when you can't find the right track. You sense there's
some particular work you are meant to be doing. And you're right.
Einstein needed to formulate theories of physics, Harriet Tubman needed
to guide people to freedom, and you need to follow your original vision.
As Vartan Gregorian said, "The universe is not going to see someone like
you again in the entire history of creation." Each of us is one of a
kind. Every living person has a completely original way of looking at
the world, and originality always needs to express itself.